Hmmm...eto ang pagkakakilala sa akin

Kenji II, 09/06/2004:
JAVES?! hmm all i can say about this guy is WOW....mapapaWOW ka sa
kabaitan, WOW ang computer skills, WOW ang energy and dedication to his
craft, WOW na wow when it comes to girls, WOW ang size ng.....(heart)
hahaha! You can all read naman through his
testimonials na well-loved si Javes, everybody likes him and nobody
dares to argue with this sweet, humble and Luvable guy! Thanks Javes
for all the help! It was a pleasure knowing you and working with a
talented guy like you!

sherilyn, 09/06/2004:
Si kuya boy siya ang isa sa mga mabait kong kuya.Malambing yan sa
lahat ng kilala niya at malapit din sya sa pamilya namin.Mula bata pa
ako sya na ang nag-study sa mga pinsanko at mula ngayonpati ang kapatid
ko tinuturuan nya sa Bible.Masaya ako dahil nakilala ko si kuya boy
masayahin at lagi syang nanlilibre ganon sya kabait sa lahat ng kilala
niya.Pagdating nmn sa espiritual magaling miyang magpahayag sa pulong
at magbigay ng mga kumentosana huwag kayong magbago! Thank ayou po sa
lahat.('',)

Gale, 09/01/2004:
Si Javes? Grabe! Wala akong masabi...kaya tatahimik na lang akish.
(silence fills the air). Ok na un! Ito ang "bespren" talaga - the
definition and the essence of the word - according to him. Hehehe...ito
rin ang napansin kong kadalassssss magpalit ng avatar sa Friendster.
Leynard is fortunate to have a friend like you. Preho kayo - through
thick and thin. Sino kaya thin?

Michael, 08/27/2004:
C Kuya Boy ba kamo e chickboy din to eh... joke lang. Ang bait nito
talagang galante kapag manlibre... kaya talagang masarap kasama to c
kuya boy.... mabubusog ka.. actually ung pagiging galante nya lang ang
nagustuhan namin sa kanya wala ng iba pa hehehe....peace tau kuya ha..
maarte din to sa testi gusto maganda parate ang sinasabi sa kanya kaya
eto pinapalitan ko... =) hehe.. Baka mamaya hindi na ako pansinin nito
ni kuya Boy.. Basta ok tong nilalang basta tao yan c kuya Boy.

Shirley, 08/26/2004:
Eto na ang testi na matagal ng kinukulit sa kin ni kuya Boy... Simulan
ko na.... Hmmmmm... Ano ba ang masasabi ko kay Kuya Boy?....
Wag kayong kokontra ha sa sasabihin ko, kasi napag-utusan lang ako...
Sabi niya kamukha daw niya si John Lloyd... Sa tingin oo, kasi yun ang
sabi niya... (hehehehe, joke lang) Pero maiba naman tayo, yang si Kuya
Boy mabait na tao yan...Super kahit hindi ko nakakasama o nakakausap...
Nagkakausap lang kasi kami niyan sa YM lang... Pala biro rin pala
siya... and galante!(sabi nila lang....hehehe, libre mo ko....) Sana
nga matagpuan n niya ang babaeng para sa kanya, kasi sinisimulan na
niya ang pagpapa-
macho...(hehehe...start na kasi siya ulit sa gym) para mas guwapo pa
siya ke John Lloyd...
Sa espiritual naman, ok din yan, kahit busy sa trabaho my time paring
unahin ang Kaharian....(naks.....libre mo talaga ako niyan)
Ayan kuya ok na siguro ang testi ko sobra sobra na... mukang 3
starbucks na ata ito...
Sa susunod ulit.... ingat

Dandy, 08/24/2004:
Si Javes, classmate ko yan since elementary hanggang high school. Super
bait yang tao na yan at very soft spoken kaya lang mahiyain yan sa
babae Noon, ewan ko lang ngayon playboy ka na ba? he he he. Saka very
gentleman yan kaya lang nasa loob ang kulo (joke) he hehe... Pero
kidding aside very talented yang tao na yan even nong nag aaral pa kami
magaling mag drawing yan saka editor yan ng school organ namin at
matalino most of all sa computer. Kaya lang despite ng mga special
gifts nya ala pa rin syang asawa kasi mahiyain yan di nya talaga
sinasabi yong true feelings nya kaya sa mga girls na may gusto sa kanya
kailangan aggressive kayo para di makatanggi. he he he......
I miss you friend! Dandy

Michelle, 08/24/2004:
Si sir Javes as I call him. Grabe!!! siya na yata ng pinaka mabait na
taong nakilala ko. HIndi marunong magalit. Pero once nakita ko na yan
magalit. nung nagalit siya eh di nga siya mukhang galit eh! napuno lang
kaya nakapag taas ng boses pero kalmado pa rin. at pagkatapos nun one
week yata siyang sobrang nakonsensya. Haaay!!!! those were the days....
miss ko na tong si sir grabe!parang kapamilya ko na to. Wish ko lang
sana tigilan mo na ang pagiging workaholic. You should always have time
for your self and enjoy life. Haaay... napaka swerte ng babaeng
makakatuluyan nitong si sir Jav wala na siyang hahanapin pa. Kaya kung
sino man siya sana nga eh makita mo na siya as in sana bukas na!!!
ingat ka lagi sir. I'm confident naman na lagi kang ipagpapala kasi
mabuti kang tao. Keep in touch!!!!

Christel, 08/23/2004:
The walking computer si Sir Javes! Since ive met him laging tungkol sa
PC ang problema, pero he is such a nice person and kind a religious
kasi lagi daw siyang na-atend ng PULONG! anyway Javes is full of
mystery when it comes to love life, as far as i can remember he is
inlove with a girl named NEMO pala! hehehe.....Anyway God Bless and sir
please huwag mo naman kaming tanggalan ng account! May JEHOVA. Bless
You!

Felisa, 08/21/2004:
Javes... pangalan pa lang blessed na blessed na! Javes is one of the
friendly people in Reliv. I remember nung bago pa lang ako sa Reliv, eh
chika siya ng chika sa kin. Kahit na nangungulit akong magpa-lay-out ka
sa kanya, all smiles pa rin. Sabi niya dati super sexy ko daw.(teka
ba't di ko na yata naririnig sa yo yun? he he.) He usually treats us to
lunch or snacks , super galante. And of course, very humorous!! Javes
boy, Have time to pamper yourself, stay happy and optimistic about
life. The love of your life will come in the most unexpected place and
time. Believe me. So don't grumble about love lost ok?

Jeff, 08/02/2004: Si Javes? d best yan! there must be
something wrong with you kung d kayo close hehehe...but on the
contrary, badboy din yan chickboy pa ssshh! atin-atin na lang to ha.
Pero pagdating sa lovelyfe...hmmn ewan ko ba, computer whiz yan pero
dpa nya na develop ang
program to find for Nemo hehehe...o baka naman naguguluhan lang sya
kung si Uptown Girl nga ba ang Ms. Right? hehehe....hmmn you gotto make
up your mind dude...it can't be two ok Javes...?Bottomline is, you
can't afford to let go a friend like him. Wish you all the best man...!

Anna Rissa, 07/26/2004: Nemo! . . . este, Sir Javes! Mabait,
Mabait, at Sobrang bait talaga! Kaya nga hindi na nya lalagyan ng
password internet connection namin eh! hehe! . . . Yes peeps, he's not
that tall but I think he's got a huge BRAIN! He's a computer genius
FYI! Most of all Kind Hearted!!! Hehehe! Mabait talaga Promise!!!

Joselle, 07/26/2004:
Javes "Boy" Mansilungan! Ei... He's the man! A close to perfect guy.
Superbait, super professional sa work, supersipag, supersayang kasama
to sum up superBOY :> I don't know why til now wala pang special
girl yan. Hmmmm.... I think still finding the right girl for him,the
super girl. hihihihi... Is she Nemo?! huh! or the girl next
door...mmmmm is there a letter _?!?!#@*@# jajaja... Girls out there,
check out this guy. A guy with a golden heart!

yuj, 07/25/2004:
Si Boy..hmm...matagal ko na itong kilala... bata pa lang ako..nagaabot
na ito ng mic..at nagpapahayg na rin...sa congreagation...hehehe.. At
MS na rin siya noon.... MS = Mahilig sa Sister..heheheh...joks..pero
mabait yan...at sobrang galante.... sana
ambunan mo naman kami ng iyong kayamanan balang araw...ok? c",)

Rosette, 07/20/2004:
Hi Sir Javs!I do not know how will i start on my testi kase baka pag di
mo nagustuhan burahin mo ako sa friendster mo. joke! Well, J-oyous
person A-llouring V-ery Kind E-nergetic S-imple but Genius. But the
best of all emotional and very understanding person sya. napakasuwerte
ng girl na magiging girlfriend nya. Kaya girls meet him
na..........javes, thanks for being such a good supervisor to us and a
friend to me. Don't change and i wish you all the best in this world.
Sana you find na the right girl for you.........Don't loose hope
okey!!!tke care. God bless!!!

Mark Ace, 07/20/2004:
muztah sir. ayan may testi ulit me hehehe. Si kuya boy mahusay yan,
lalo na kapag nagpapayo sa katulad kong kabataan. malapit yan sa mga
kabataan, lagi niya kaming pinatitibay niyan. kaya sir thank you, tsaka
ung libre kuya hehehe jokes.

Lúthien, 07/18/2004:
haii.. ayan, me testi nko!! hehe.. kuya javes.. kuya boy tawag ko
jan dati.. ngaun javes n.. tanda n ehh!! haha!! wala pong pikon!!
ayun.. kuya ko tlga to.. bata pko ksama n nmin yan sa mga cbs.. cmula
dun kina ate rachel, then kina ate shebz, tpos ung kina
nanai remy.. kita nyo.. ilng taon n rin un.. hehe.. nwei.. si kuya,
galante.. mabaet.. maloko.. haha!! lalo n kpag ininterview nko nyan..
xado matanong tlga.. hmm.. matinik yan sa chiks.. pero madalas, xa ung
natitinik.. haha!! tngnan nyo.. la pa kong news sa wedding
day nya.. (san n kc ung bride?!) joke po.. thnx sa lht of cors..
pati n rin sa 2long sa net.. un lng.. olweiz tke care.. (-.-)~

Charmz, 07/06/2004:
si kuya javes.....sobrang bait nyan.... hindi ko pa nga nakikitang
nagalit yan e....lagi syang handang tumulong if u need anything...kaya
nga mapalad magiging girlfriend nyan!

Sarrah, 07/03/2004:
helo po! so this is ur first testi.. wel, this guy is a frend of my
brothers, syempre frend of mine na rin.. di kami ganon kadalas magkita
pro nakakausap ko po sya sa phone... maraming jokes, ung iba corny pro
nakakatawa na rin... mtagal ko na rin po tong kilala, cguro nung mga
bata pa ko.. sobrang bait po nito.. kung di nyo
po naitatanong eh good adviser po iyan.. uhm, sana lalo ka pang gumwapo
at maging macho para masaya!!! =) un lang po... take care, God bless!!!
Peace out!!!

Katya, 06/30/2004:
what can i say about javes? he's one of a kind.. a friend you can rely
on when you have problems... sobrang bait and sobrang galante to his
friends... there was a time when we were both having problems with our
love life, gosh!!! pareho pa, just couldnt imagine what a
coincident was that... anyway, i wish you all the luck and may you find
the real girl whom you gonna spend the rest of your lives... take
care!!!

In case you want to add a testimonial (you may click the comment) ginawang friendster ang tabulas

By Bo Sanchez

Let me tell you a crazy story I heard recently. There's this
husband who out of sheer love for his wife decided to prove it to her.
So he swam the widest oceans, crossed the deepest rivers, and climbed
the highest mountains to show his deep devotion to her.

But in the end, she divorced him.

Why?

Because he was never home. (Get it?)

Let me tell you an experience I had as a kid. One day, I asked
Mom, "Why do my shoes keep eating my socks?" As a young boy, that was
always a mystery for me. All my other classmates never had that
problem. Their socks remained tight and high up their legs the entire
day.

Mom didn't answer my question but simply gave me two rubber bands
which I dutifully placed around the top of my socks. To this day,
fifteen years later, I still have permanent circle marks around my
legs. But aside from giving me this slight defect, the two bands
worked like magic.

It never occurred to me that Dad and Mom didn't have the money to
buy a new pair of socks for me. So I wore five-year-old socks, all
soggy, grayish, and garter less.

And yet amazingly, I never complained. I believe it was because Dad
was always home when I needed him. Every night, after coming from work,
we'd jog together, sit around, and talk about Tarzan, Farrah Fawcett
Majors, God, and what I wanted to be when I grew up (a stockholder).
On Saturdays, we'd walk to Cubao, eat a hot- dog-on-a-stick, and
buy new rubber bands before going home.

I've learned that in truth, we don't want our loved ones to show
their love for us in big ways. Swimming the widest oceans, crossing
the deepest rivers, and climbing the highest mountains seem
spectacular - but that's not what we really want.

Deep in our hearts, we just want them home. With us.

Sometimes, God will operate that way. Suddenly, He decides not to
answer our prayers, or fill our need, or heal our sickness, or give us
the miracle we're asking for. (He's got reasons why He won't, and
believe me - they're pretty good ones.)

So He'll just be there beside you, holding you in a hug. Sharing
your pain. Weeping as you weep.

Oh, He might give you some rubber bands. And that small comfort
from Him will be more than enough to sustain you.


Because the most essential truth you already know. Daddy's home.

 
 

- purpleorange 

Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone he/she loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again. But sometimes, a love lost is a love gone forever. No amount of hope can bring back to life a relationship that just died a natural death. Set yourself free, let your hearts spread its wings and fly. Remember, it may rain for 40 days and 40 nights, but still it will not rain forever. One day, the pouring will stop and there will be plenty of branches where you can find rest. One of these is where you will build your nest and start over again. It's never too late.

You may find love and lose it but, WHEN LOVE DIES, YOU NEVER DIE WITH IT. You cannot be a redeemer all your life. The best way to weigh a relationship is through the test of fire. You cannot be a loser with your mistake forever. We all fall and make wrong decisions, but our blunders are not meant to bury us deep in misery, but to teach us the valued lessons of life. Loving is always a learning process... with love we learn how to CARE AND SACRIFICE. We learn to SHARE AND REACH OUT. We learn to be UNSELFISH AND GIVE MORE THAN WE CAN. Then, when everything doesn't end well, we learn how it feels like to fall and get hurt.

But learning doesn't have to end there. After our fall, we strive to get back on our feet and move on. This is where we learn that LIFE DOESN'T END WHERE OUR HEARTACHES BEGIN. THERE'S NO FUTURE FOR A RELATIONSHIP OF LIES AND SELFISHNESS. It's true, there is life in love. But, there can still be life even after losing love. If you leave the past behind and let your heart heal, then you give yourself the chance to find yourself again. The success of a relationship lies not only in the beauty of its beginning, but in its consistency. Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart. Let us always remember that...HAPPINESS IS NOT A MATTER OF DESTINY BUT A MATTER OF CHOICE. There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than friendship. We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer, but in the end, our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves. YOU DON'T HAVE TO FORGET SOMEONE YOU LOVE. WHAT YOU NEED TO LEARN IS HOW TO ACCEPT THE VERDICT OF REALITY WITHOUT BEING BITTER OR SORRY FOR YOURSELF. YOU WOULD BE BETTER OFF GIVING THAT DEDICATION AND LOVE TO SOMEONE MORE DESERVING.

Don't let your heart run your life. Be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow. IF YOU LOSE LOVE, IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU HAVE FAILED IN LOVE. CRY IF YOU HAVE TO, BUT MAKE SURE THAT TEARS WASH AWAY THE HURT AND THE BITTERNESS THAT THE PAST LEFT YOU WITH. LET GO OF YESTERDAY AND LOVE WILL FIND ITS WAY BACK TO YOU. And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime. A woman on the rebound could easily fall for sweeping emotions and be made to falsely believe that she finally stumbled upon the right man...when what she just found is only someone to cover up for the love she lost. A man who makes a promise with words and not with actions may never live up to fulfil them.

IT'S TRUE THAT LOVE CAN WAIT FOREVER, BUT IT IS CRAZY TO STUBBORNLY HOPE FOR SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T EVEN CARE OR UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. Love makes us see the things through rose-colored glasses. Most of the time, we fail to recognize the danger sign that light up along our way. This feeling you have nurtured for so long isn't healthy anymore. You must realize that you have to let go now before it consumes you and your sanity. There is always a time to think and stop. A time to be sensible and not to allow our hearts to rule over our heads.

YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY NOT IN THE ARMS OF A MAN/WOMAN WHO KEEPS YOU WAITING BUT IN THE ARMS OF SOMEONE WHO WILL TAKE YOU NOW AND LOVE YOU FOREVER. If loving a person who is attached to someone else is a crime, then, maybe, many of us would have been jailed long before we realize what its consequences could have been. Loving someone is never a sin...it's what people do out of love that sometimes makes it all wrong. The selfish desire to want that person is what makes it a sin. DON'T THINK ONLY OF YOUR FEELINGS FOR REAL LOVE DOESN'T HAVE A PLACE FOR SELFISH PEOPLE. When there is love, there is always sacrifice. When we love someone, we never easily give up on that person. Even if we get hurt badly, we always try to find a way to ease the pain and learn to understand and forgive. Loving too much doesn't hurt...it is when we expect this love to be reciprocated that we begin to seek approval and acceptance of the things we have done and when we are taken for granted and rejected, we curse the very same love that we once freely and happily offered.

DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME WAITING FOR SOMEONE WHO NEVER REALLY CARED ABOUT HOW YOU WOULD HAVE FELT. OPEN YOUR HEART AGAIN AND GIVE YOURSELF THE CHANCE TO FIND THE ONE WHO WOULD MAKE LOVING WORTH THE PAIN AND THE SACRIFICE. Just like anything else, our love grows weak and dies, if not taken cared of. It can keep up with pain only to a certain extent. Beyond that, it withers without any hope of recovery and soon dies. GOD WAKES US IN THE MIDST OF A STORM TO TEACH US A LESSON. HE TAKES AWAY PEOPLE WE LOVE SO WE CAN LEARN TO VALUE LOVE ITSELF. HE MAKES US CRY SO HARD SO WE CAN SEE CLEARLY WHEN WE OPEN OUR EYES. HE MAKES US BITTER SO WE CAN REALIZE THAT THERE IS NO GENUINE HAPPINESS IF WE THINK ONLY OF OUR OWN NEEDS AND NOT OF OTHERS.

Relationships built on jealousy and selfishness is doomed from the very beginning. The hardest part of losing love is letting go and moving on. Most of us cry endlessly over things that could have been but never will be. God allows us to experience pain to make us stronger and better persons. He will see us through the most trying and difficult times in our lives, and only if we put our trust in Him can we learn to find joy in our tears and happiness in our sorrows. In many failed relationships, separation comes as the inevitable choice but moving on always proves to be twice as difficult as letting go. Sometimes, our choice to hold on is beyond the control of circumstances. Letting go is a decision that can never be dictated on us. It is a resolution we make to ourselves. Acceptance is the key to a new beginning and time is the healer of all wounds. Even if the storm casts its fearful shadow, there will always be light after our darkness and loneliest moments. There is always hope for those who believe. There is always a chance for those who try.

LOSING SOMEONE WE LOVE MAY NOT BE A LOSS AT ALL BUT A BLESSING BECAUSE SOMEONE EVEN MORE DESERVING IS YET TO COME. There is nothing wrong in expressing our feelings to someone we love, but WE MUST ALWAYS BE SENSITIVE TO THE SIGNALS THAT TELL US WHEN TO RATIONALIZE AND BE SENSIBLE. There comes a time in our lives when we would fall for someone who wouldn't be as interested as we are because his attention is focused on someone else. There are many times when we love but don't get love in return. THERE ARE TIMES WHEN THE SIGN AHEAD SAYS STOP BUT WE STILL STUBBORNLY HEAD ON. We would say our love is unconditional...but if it really is, then we should never feel bad. But why do we get frustrated when love turns sour? Because we still subconsciously seek acceptance and assurance from the people we care about.

BEING IN LOVE CAN BE THE MOST WONDERFUL THING WE COULD EXPERIENCE BUT IF THE FEELING BEGINS TO CONSUME OUR WHOLE BEING, THEN WE HAVE TO STOP AND LET OUR MINDS AND NOT OUR HEARTS DICTATE OUR ACTIONS. ONLY WHEN WE LEARN TO ACCEPT OUR FATE AND UNDERSTAND THE MEANING OF OUR FAILURES CAN WE TRULY GO ON WITH LIFE. WITHOUT HAVING TO LOOK BACK AND CRY OVER THE THINGS THAT COULD HAVE BEEN BUT WILL NEVER BE...

Sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person we love, we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who love us. We miss out on so many beautiful things and simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns. Go for someone of deeds and not for someone of words for you will find rewarding happiness not with someone you love but someone who loves you more.

The best lovers are those who are capable of loving from a distance, far enough to allow the other person to grow, but never too far to feel the love deep within your being. To let go of someone doesn't mean you have to stop loving. It only means that you allow that person to find her own happiness without expecting her to come back.

Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but it is also setting yourself free from all bitterness, hatred, and anger that you keep in your heart. Do not let the bitterness rare away your strength and weaken your faith, and never allow pain to dishearten you, but rather let you grow with wisdom in bearing it.

You may find peace in just loving someone from a distance not expecting
anything in return. But be careful, for this can sustain life but can never
give enough room for us to grow. We can all survive with just beautiful
memories of the past but real peace and happiness come only with open
acceptance of what reality is today.

There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to
that person. This feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and
eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than just a
friendship, don't be so bitter about it! For it is a kind of FRIENDSHIP
that will last for a LIFETIME!!!

We start our desperate attempt to get notice and be closer but in the end
our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being bitter or sorry for
ourselves.

Believe me, you would be better off giving that dedication and love to
someone more deserving. Don't let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to
reason as well. Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow: If you lose love that doesn't mean that you failed in love. Cry, if you have to, but make it sure that the tears wash away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you.

Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it
does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.

"When I lost you, I was the one who loved you most. But between us, you
lost more, for someday, I can love someone the way that I loved you but
you will never be loved again the way that I did."

1. The nice men are ugly.
2. The handsome men are not nice.
3. The handsome and nice men are gay.
4. The handsome, nice and heterosexual men are married.
5. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have no money.
6. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money.
7. The handsome men without money are after our money.
8. The handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual, don't think we are beautiful enough.
9. The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have money, are cowards.
10.The men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice and have some money and heterosexual, are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!!!!
11. The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative.

"Men are like a fine wine. They all start out like grapes, and it's our job to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something you'd like to have dinner with."

* They say, when you meet the love of your life, time stops, and that's true.   What they don't tell you is that when it starts again, it moves extra fast to catch up.

How do you tell your heart that it's not supposed to feel for a certain someone anymore? How do you go about finding someone new, when your heart is calling you a traitor the second you think about it? Closure can be a difficult thing for many people to find. It's often as obscure as finding love itself. And, if you truly felt that the person who has departed was THE one, it can make your task of finding closure that more difficult. Like many things worth finding though, it may be difficult, but it's not impossible. When you feel like you'll never move on, or your heart will never love again, try the following ideas to help you find the closure you need and, quite frankly, deserve.

Ceremonial Goodbye
Often closure is difficult to find because a person wasn't given a proper chance to say goodbye or have a say in the ending of the relationship. It is usually much easier for the person breaking up to move on because they came to terms with the decision before even letting you know about it. To give yourself this same opportunity, collect everything that reminds you of your past love together. Put it in a box. At a time where you can have a few hours of privacy, light a candle and go through the items in the box. As you're lighting the candle, remind yourself that the flame in this relationship has gone out. Know that new flames may come and go, but at one point, a flame so large will come that it will extinguish all past flames. When you're going through the box of items, remember this is a time to acknowledge the past, but keep in mind that it is the past. When you are comfortable, put everything back in the bo x and blow out your candle. Say a goodbye to your past love and get rid of the box. Give it to a friend, if you want to keep certain mementos for later on. Or, bury it or throw it out somewhere outside of your home.

Tying Up Loose Ends
Was their something you wanted to tell your past love? Are there feelings or words trapped inside of you that you just need to get out? The best way to let these emotions free is by writing them down. Get out a pen and a paper and write a letter to your past love telling them everything you want them to know. Don't leave out anything. When you are done, fold it up and keep it in a special place. Do NOT give it to them. This is for your own personal, emotional release. You can also choose to burn the letter or rip it up as a ceremonial closure.

Looking Towards The Future
If your heart is stuck in the past, its future can't be looking too bright. Instead of focusing on what you've lost, try to change your mental attitude to what you can have. Get a piece of paper and a pen and write down a list of things you can have now that you are single. Then write a list of things you want a future partner to have that your previous partner didn't have. Whenever you're feeling a loss about your past love, look over this list again to help redirect your thoughts.

Out of Sight, Out of Mind
It is next to impossible to get over someone if you're constantly being reminded of them. If you have mementos of your relationship around your home, pack them up and get them out of sight. If you see your past love frequently at certain places, try to avoid them for a while. Similar to the above idea, steer your time and attention to things that help you create a happy life without your past love. Get involved in new groups or activities. Do things you have always wanted to that will keep your mind busy and away from what you're missing. Don't give in to the temptation to let the past be the center of your focus.

The biggest element to finding closure is finding your hope. Hope for the future. Hope for finding someone new who is an even better match than you could have dreamed for. Hope for your own happily, ever after. Once you've lost hope, you've given into the fact that destiny controls you, and not the other way around.